Yep I am, but really what I am trying to figure out now is how to tell people who were once a part of my life that I have a new one now, that I am happy with and that they don’t fit in it. Maybe that is just how you say it or maybe they get that eventually but really the point is I don’t have time for the lame ones who want to talk about how sad their lives are and what kind of victims they are. They are not the ones who get my sympathy or my time. How do you tell someone when they don’t seem to get how selfish they are? How do you tell someone that you give all of your free time, money and energy to helping others who actually deserve it? How do you tell someone: if they don’t like things so much that they should change them? How do you tell someone: you don’t receive my silly texts anymore because I am tired of the pessimistic responses you give back life isn’t as dreadful as you think?
It isn’t like I have all of the answers or even that I am looking for them but I am someone who two years ago could barely afford to buy food because I made bad decisions and I put myself in a terrible spot. But I worked long and hard (and am still doing so) to get to the point where I can pay all of my bills and still have extra cash to play with, then give to charity. I got there, I worked hard. I got two jobs. I slept on couches. I worked overtime. I ate ten-cent noodles. I trusted that in the end it would all be worth it. I believed that God gave me a brain and a body that worked so I could use them. This is not to say that every situation is fixable on your own; but it is to say that everything can and will be dealt with. And I don’t see the sense in spending my time with people who try to make me feel bad for my progress against my selfish and destructive nature. I bought a new car – I don’t see how that makes me a jerk, even if I wasn’t completely cool with it at first.
Furthermore, how do you tell people you are someone who gets respect from not just your peers but your superiors as well? They see that I am a hard worker, that I have time that is valuable and that I am a person that is in demand. How do you explain to people who it isn’t ok to get upset if you are not available at the last-minute. I am not your last-minute substitute when someone else cancels on you. It is not the way a friendship should work. It isn’t so much to ask that you think about calling me in advance for things instead of the day of. Things like this matter. You can respect me enough to respect my time since I respect yours. It is a matter of being selfless enough to be ok with the word “no”! Especially when you hear it with an addendum attached that gives you another option.
How do you tell someone: they are not as good a friend as they think they are? How do you tell someone: I no longer know what benefits our friendship has? How do you tell someone: you aren’t one of the people I miss? How do you tell someone: it is time to move on?
